If words are arms, actions are mercenaries

"Action speaks louder than word"-we have heard about this phrase as a positive connotation throughout but if were to consider it carefully, the phrase does indeed have a negative side to it - 'Action indeed is much louder than mere words.' which means a negative action surpasses negative words by margins. Words are powerful but actions are divine.If words were to be a notion , then action definitely is an act. And by all means an act is what makes a notion executable, thereof the notion then becomes powerful in the first place.Well, my intention is not to fuzz you up by talking in circles about a notion or an act but to set a backdrop of what I am going to be talking about next.Here I go ! I am advocating for countless acts that have led a notion to be as debilitating as it can be.For fathers who beat their wives infront of their children, for women who let their boy friends abuse their children, for thugs who rape an innocent girl walking down the street, for couples that stomp all over each other's pride- let it be known that your action is directly proportionate to countless reactions. You did it! You have done more damage than you intended to do . You have successfully walked all over someone's pride, you have stripped them off their identities and happinesses, you have shaken them from their core, you have shamed them, you have isolated them and moreover you have scarred them for rest of their lives. If it was just a notion that is yet to be enacted, would it then be that? there would be a father who is angry but far from raising a hand , a woman who knows of her boy friends intention to protect her toddler son early on, thugs who are aware of repercussion of raping an innocent soul, couples who believe in talking it out rather than having the situation blow out of proportion . To distinguish the two, 'What if' represents notion but 'this is it' represents an act.When you use words, you have a room to ponder before speaking , think before acting , and there definitely is a legroom before things stretches too far out. But once its done, the damage cant be undone.Like arms and ammunition, that is lying out there and though is perilous doesn't impose any threat until it finds a mercenary to carry out the act, such is the correspondence between words an actions. Therefore, choosing your words wisely is essential but ruminating about your action is much more important- For you could scrutinize your yet to be spoken words or action but the aftermath of a completed action is unfathomable.So, please choose your words wisely but choose your action conscientiously. ~Dedicated to everyone who has been belittled one way or the other !

I am not a political pundit, yet I try to keep myself informed and here’s why you should too?

An open letter to everyone from my generation, I am an 80’s kid , born and brought up in faraway land of Himalayas- my mighty Nepal and here I am today pouring down my thoughts as to why I choose to be well informed about American politics and why should you as well? While growing up, I often heard one of my cousins say that Politics is 'filth or dirt and I simply had to take a pick’, so for all my teenage years my recollection of being politically inclined was just that. It was either filth or dirt or even better both, that’s how I convinced myself and as any teenager would,I didn’t put much thought into it at all! After all who cares about mundane entity such as ‘Politics’ when there are so many appealing things out there to ponder about and to rejoice? That was soon going to change with time. One fine day almost a decade ago, after traveling thousands of miles, I came to the United States in my quest of finding myself and to seek for better opportunities. My interest in politics piqued after studying Political Science as my electives courses to graduate. I found Political Science so intriguing and equally endearing that, I ended up reading up so much on the founding fathers. Oh By the way, it so happens that Benjamin Franklin is my role model, since his life story of rising from a penny pincher to a great man is just commendable and resonates with me in so many different levels , for me to be able to contain it in mere words. From the colonization to civil war to the liberty that United States is able to exercise on modern day, I studied about it all and for a single second it didn’t seem like a boring thing to do at all. It taught me about great men and their even greater accomplishments like the founding fathers. It taught me about fearless women and their fight to be heard, to be noticed such as Rosa Parks and all the suffragists;. It also taught me about the racial war and the struggle of everyone involved to survive and to sustain such as Martin Luther King Jr. It taught me about the political divide in this country. It gave me a perspective about liberalism and conservatism. It gave me a choice to decide for myself if I leaned more toward left or the right. It helped me expand my horizon as to what do I believe in and what am I akin of. It taught me that I had a choice to choose and such liberty shouldn’t go to waste. So that’s how I gradually was inclined towards politics , and even though I still don’t know all the ins and outs of politics, I choose to address the pressing question here! The question or should I say the answer itself lies in the fact that, I at least try to be acquainted about political happenings around me. If I don’t want to consume or support Monsanto products, If I want to be owner of my own body, if I want to have free education , if I want my parents to have affordable healthcare, if I want stricter gun regulations, if I want my personal information to be just mine, if I want my friends to be able to live in United States with dignity , moreover if I want life, liberty and pursuit of happiness then it falls upon my shoulder to do my homework and choose a candidate which I believe will do greater good to my community and people around me. It is my rightful duty to be informed and to be stern about my choices. I can’t expect things to be fixed overnight if I am not willing to participate in deciding the fate of the nation I live in. I choose to be informed about politics because I want to make sound decisions on my behalf. I don’t want to align myself to a person or a party just because my parents,families or friends said so. It isn’t a petty matter. American politics is the pinnacle of world politics and it will make a difference to the world economy in more ways then I could imagine or comprehend so I want to play my part and so should you! Politics might be filth and dirt as my cousin once said, but guess what ? -it falls upon you and me to get rid of the filth and dirt from our living space if we were to breathe in fresh air. It isn’t your burden but your choice and responsibility. Embark in this journey because with your decision and innumerable others’ , that share same vision as yours the candidate you are rooting for just might be the victor which means your agendas are one step closer from being met. There will be obstacles and disappointments down the road but on the brighter side, you get to be the part of this process over and over again and you get to choose a better candidate next time around. It is your privilege and right so exercise it. On that note, I would like to ask all the youths of today to try and understand as to why politics is too invincible to be able to contain it with ignorance, for ignorance doesn’t prevail. Let us join forces with the best of our abilities, to think , to read, and to choose what we truly believe in. After all, Politics might not be instilled on us upon birth yet Politics governs everyone’s life thereafter. ~ Dedicated to corrigible youth of today!

Remembering Sandy Hook Travesty

20 children-my heart is completely aching for those tiny souls who didn't get to know how does it feel like to grow up and for the rest who survived,they have been scarred forever as they know the evil face of growing up so early on that I fear their childhood have been snatched from them..And to the hopeful parents who bid goodbyes to their children that particular morning promising to go Christmas shopping later after the school ended,when in fact they had to hold the lifeless body of their tiny beings,my heart goes out to you completely...Its terribly aching and these tears won't stop.Then,I think to myself,it didn't happen to me nor my family yet like myself there are countless others who can empathize and relate to what happened because we are humans-the most superior being of all..But then,the one who committed this heinous crime was a human too and I am trying to understand how much of hatred does it take to end someone else's lives?? What right does he have???Who gave him the permission?? And deep within I so wish I could tell him that"If you are depraved,angry or hurt why not go to a corner and end your meaningless life???,but don't lay a finger at anyone else...You are a bad man,a really bad one!!!!!" To the 26 victims,I pray for your souls to rest in peace till eternity..To the bereaved family I will pray so that you can muster up all the courage in you to move on and heal...I will forever keep everyone of you in my prayers..;(

Where is my utopia?

Where's my Utopia??? I sulked,I lamented,I cried,I gasped,I frowned,I exclaimed yet the perfection didn't step in..Where's my Utopia???-I sighed...And then A sudden twinge of realization crossed my mind and I thought to myself.."My Utopia's vanished when brotherhood was slaughtered,when blood were shed,when profanity overruled and when life became cheaper than death!!!" Sorry Sir Thomas More,I apologize your Utopian dream will always be a dream now,for reality is far too scarred, far too damaging to even be able to move on from!!!

Time a healer?

They say,"time is the healer, time is powerful, time solves it all!!!" I say"Yes I know it all..I have seen time take a stride and make everything better AS IF IT WERE to have a magic wand;but then until that right time comes,that swift feeling of churning ,crushing and crashing is the most painful!!" It's the times way of saying,"Get used to it!!!"..Getting used to it-that's the right thing to do and hoping time will heal me with its swift touch sooner than later!!!

Making the best out of the worst!

Life is so unfair at times and all the while when one's wailing,complaining and whining;there are others who make the best out of that very situation they are in, not that their hearts doesn't pain, not that they don't realize they have lost everything that they have loved dearly,not that they aren't frail or weak or hurting-they are all but strong, they are all but happy, they are all but complete but then they simply choose not to let life eat them up,not to let agony turn to abhorrence, not to let separation swallow traces of what's left behind and that's how these brave souls learn to tighten their grip to their lives once again. This realization is so beautiful, I cried a little, I ached a little and I salute these brave souls!

Life as we know it- Are we lost in this conundrum?

Harder the work, whether greater the yield or not;definitely greater the satisfaction. And greater the satisfaction, harder the effort you put in and this is how the vicious circle of life continues-working hard to multiply satisfaction with the hope that it will yield something bigger and better, after all as humans we eye on begetting perfection and this is how we shall continue to exist !!! So now the real question is are we losing grip to our own lives just because we are striving to live our lives the way what we typically know of or should we chose to live an atypical life-which might be so skewed that we might be called a hippie,weirdo, moronic or even an alien,but then we wouldn't have to chase for neither satisfaction nor perfection!! I wish there was a simple answer to this.

Extremism is in no way acceptable

I am not against any race, religion,ethnicity,gender, status but one of my biggest pet peeves is the concept of extremism..I can never understand,let alone process why are extremists so indulgent on creating ruckus over minor things?-from breathing, to yawning to living there is an extreme thought process involved for everything.There is a propaganda that extremists want the entire world to follow in the name of Universal brotherhood-And mind that,I say Extremist and I don't say Christian or jews or muslims or hindus because religion is not the problem,Extremism is! -The skewed thought processes of Extremists could emerge from any religion,any background,any culture and they exist in insurmountable numbers in every part of the world. I don't understand why a woman is beheaded for bearing a child before marriage,or considered the protagonist when she is actually the victim of rape,or the citizens having to go through chemical weapon attack,or mass shooting/bombing around the globe and every other happenstances of that nature???? -And while witnessing these horrendous events is one thing; I strongly believe it has nothing to do with one's religion /race/ethnicity whatsoever- It is not because one was Muslim or black or white or interracial-the real problem is yet again Extremism.Why isn't there a liberal approach ? why is it so hard to accept somebody else's existence? Why is it so important to control somebody else's lives?-So many questions yet answers to none.Hmmm, Still seeking an answer.On that note ,be liberal,be accepting of others and Extremists STOP ,take a hike!

On parents and acceptance

There lies a safe heaven,on your parents feet.There lies immense love that will never fade.There lies countless blessings that will never dissuade. There lies prayers that will always remain.So why then,you let their heart ache? So why then you let their eyes drench ? So why then you let their hopes wither? So why then you despise their old existence? So why then you turn blind eye to their agony? So why then you don't hold their hands no more? And now that you can't look into the same direction as them,why don't you try at least to match their gaze because if they were to ignore while you were wailing,if they were not there to hold your hands when you were failing,if they were not there to teach you right from the wrong,if they were not there to caress you when you were frail,if only if they were not there to pamper you,feed you,groom you and mould you into the you,you are today; may be the you that you are today wouldn't be the you that you take pride in. Something to ponder about!!! And on that note,accept your parents despite the differences since they sure as hell accepted you !!! No riches in the world can replace them- Irreplaceable they are!

Life lessons and Relationships

I would say relationships are two way street that meet at a junction but on the way you could encounter a multilane highway or a Dead end;however the observations,the calculations, the happenings and the lessons learnt along the way is all that matters. For instance,on the way you will learn about elevation,quality,surrounding of the road you are traveling through; You will learn about tipsy turvy,crooked,rigged,or well paved streets; You will learn whether its misty,foggy,sunny chilly or rainy outside and plan your travel accordingly;You will learn about the need of yielding for someone else or stopping all together to avoid a clash; You might encounter breathtakingly beautiful scenic view or painstakingly dilapidated sight along the road ; You might be making way through smooth road, and the same road might change midway into a bumpy,graveled road . And not just the road, but along the way you will learn about the journey itself: to jostle through the traffic, give someone else right of way, follow rules to avoid the consequences, to slow down,to gear up, to halt midway. And like I stated earlier what matters is getting on the bandwagon,strapping your seat belts and heading ahead along the road with caution. If you meet multilane highway,good for you but on the way if you meet dead end...Lift your chin up ,take a deep breath and realize there is a reverse gear to take you back!That is the mantra of life and beauty of relationships.You won't learn until you get out there- And after that its for you to choose to stop or to move on or to to choose a new vehicle all together since your vehicle has mileage over 200 K and is in a bad shape. The choice is yours and next time you get on your new ride,you know all the shortcuts to avoid the bad consequences along the road,you know why? Because you once dared to fight your inhibition and get on the damn car and get along with whatever comes your way...So be happy that what could have been the fatal accident,was actually a life lesson. And new journey, new adventure awaits...:) On that note, Relationships are beautiful but when both ends meet ,there should be no guilt, no remorse, no pain and no hurt

Mother

Mother's are irreplaceable!!! She is your arch-nemesis and a lot of times you are irked and exclaim in fury "Oh generation gap, Quit being fussy!!"(at least I do that majority of times) yet at the end of the day she is your confidant who always supports you unconditionally; she's your protector who plunges into the darkness of uncertainty to make sure certainty of brightness resides on your side; she is your friend who will make silly comments and laugh boisterously; she is your teacher, who teaches you that Patience and Perseverance never goes unnoticed and kindness and altruism never goes waste; she's the one who makes you believe that towards the end of the dark, dreary dungeon there is going to be a glimpse of light; she is the one who makes you feel that there is no one else in the world as precious and as beautiful as you are; she will fight with the world with her bare hands if she has to, to defend your honor; she will kiss all your pain away;she will love you without any condition,no matter how much you hurt/ mistreat her; she still sees the goodness in you even if the entire world is poking fingers at you as if you are the culprit; she will never stop loving you even for a tad bit; she is the home that raises you, she is the warmth that moulds you, she is the artist that carves you, she is the teacher that shapes you, and she is the heaven that embraces you-She is divine and God created her to be the epitome of love, kindness,blessings, hard work, dedication and moreover"SHE IS THE FIRST PERSON YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH" and will do so for rest of your lives. Thank you for loving us and making our lives worthwhile just because you reside in it..